In this modern, fast-pacing era where courtship is just one
text away or chats rather, does #WorththeWait still exists, I mean, the genuine
one?
I was in college, almost about to graduate, when I
experienced courtship the way Christian does. And I may say it was totally
diverse from the conventional way I know.
This is how I experienced it. But before I proceed, I want
to reiterate that this is how “I”, personally experienced it and does not
concluding or asserting that this should be the standard manner of doing it.
It was primarily initiated by the guy to ask someone to be
his prayer covenant partner.
Prayer covenant means you’re going to set a
specific time and when the clock ticks in that time, you’re going to pray
regardless on where you are.
What are you going to pray for? Simple, very simple - God’s will. That’s it!
You are not going to pray that he/she hopefully falls in love with you and that
he/she will began to realize how awesome you are.
But prior to that, of course, it is important that your
parents know it all. You also need to ask permission from your Pastor(s). Well,
for us, it so happen that we are on the same church. But for some, please do
ask permission on both sides.
While on the process, these are some reminders from our
mentors:
- No terms of endearment
- No sweet texts, chats or in any forms of communication
- You only meet once a month and will only converse about your prayer and devotion updates.
I hope from this point, you did not get me wrong. This is not
putting guidelines just like a strict parent rules does. Looking on it, it’s
actually normal. In the same way if someone is courting a woman, we don’t
express any sweet words or actions not unless we want to show motives or
intention of liking that person. Difficulty
in obeying only happens once you have mutual feelings for each other.
From then on, we were guided by our Pastor and some of our
mentors who teach us how the process really matters and why waiting is vital
before binding yourself into a relationship.
It was then I realized that being in a relationship does not happen because you have mutual feelings and you simply wanted to express that feeling.
It was then I realized that being in a relationship does not happen because you have mutual feelings and you simply wanted to express that feeling.
It was thru our mentors that I began to understand that
being in a relationship signifies that you are willing to spend the rest of
your life with that person which is also affiliated of your readiness in all
aspects: physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually.
Allowing prayer covenant does not giving any assurance or
does not convey the idea that you also like the person and that you are giving
him a glimpse of any chance. It is not equivalent of saying yes when someone
asks if they can court you.
The idea of #WorththeWait only matters when waiting is
really happening.
It is completely different from the usual, but it is indeed
#WorththeWait.
P.S
Please guys never ever ask to your parents for bucks when
you want a date.
If you can’t buy chocolates, flowers, bears and alike - just
use your creativity. We do appreciate efforts more than material things that
you can effortlessly acquire almost anywhere. It is definitely a BIG NO!
